My daughter is wiser than her years. One day she asked me, “What defines beauty and who gets to decide who’s beautiful and who’s not?”
Since that day when Sierra demonstrated such amazing insight and compassion, I’ve viewed the so called beautiful people in a new light. Today, I saw an article featuring a woman who was highlighted for being especially beautiful. She was in her twenties, somewhere around 5 feet 8 inches tall, and 100-105 pounds. Makeup was plastered on her face, and her eyes were half open in a seductive pose. Is this Beauty?
I don’t know how it is for guys, but we gals over-stress the size of everything between our heads and our toes. From Western culture, we’ve gotten the idea that one’s weight is somehow related to one’s value in society.
When your personal self worth is tied up in how you think you look, you’ll demean yourself when you don’t think that you’re beautiful.
The ugly duckling is a great example of this. Nothing about the little darling was rejection-worthy. If you’re familiar with the story, then you know that the “duckling” was actually a baby swan, but he didn’t know it. His poor self-image messed with him, causing him to devalue himself and to be depressed.
Back to my daughter’s question—What defines beauty and who gets to decide who’s beautiful and who’s not?
The young model in the beauty write up was pretty, but she looked frail. I’m far more concerned about her as a person than I am about her body shape. Her hair style and color are furthest from my mind, and I don’t care if she is wearing expensive designer jeans–I mean, really, aren’t there far more important issues in the world than the label on our pants? Seeing her photo, I had all sorts of questions. Is she all right? Does she take pills to maintain her weight? Is she starving or purging?
For all of my sisters, the women I’ve met and those who I’ve never met, I want you to know that being skinny doesn’t add up to being gorgeous. Beauty and skinny are not the same. The size of your body doesn’t determine the size of your worth. You are more precious than anything in this world. No matter what you feel about how you look, sister you are more than all that!