How Would you Respond in this Situation?

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Shocking me is not an easy accomplishment. I spent much of my childhood in a bar. But today a woman who I don’t know set her mouth to flying in response to someone practically drag racing down her road.

She used the phrase Jesus Christ on a cross as a substitute for cussing. That was the first shock of the day. The second was when our big horse decided to take a section of fence out. Thankfully, my horse is okay.

Society has its own checks and balances, making corrections where needed, and even undoing some of the corrections that weren’t needed. But something has upset the balance. Something has influenced our minds in such a way that people just don’t say what they want to say and need to say to set things right.

Back in the 70’s and 80’s in the barroom with my mother. Men and women sipped their drinks and talked with one another. There was a lot of good natured joking and heaps of smoking.

Everyone knew that dropping expletives in the presence of ladies and children was totally not cool.  Sometimes there were slips, but do you know what would happen next? Someone nearby would gently say, “Keep it down,” or “None of that here.” These kinds of corrections were followed by good natured snickers and chuckles.

A correction, gently stated, was needed today.  That woman’s expletive was way out of bounds. I give her the benefit of the doubt. I don’t think she realized what she said. After all, no one would deliberately speak of someone’s death in the way that she spoke of Jesus’ cross.

If this had happened when I was a child in the barroom, customers would’ve spoken up. I can almost hear them now, “None of that in here,” but this time there would be no snickers and no chuckles.

I’ve spent some time thinking about this incident. I’ve shared some of my thoughts with you. I’d like to know your approach to this. Would you have said something to her? If so, what would it have been?

Wishing you a lovely day,

Pamela

 

 

Advice to Women in Ministry

Pamela Washington
As women anointed by the Lord to lead and serve, we sometimes personally experience the negative effects of prejudice, gender preference, and wrongly interpreted scripture related to women.

I’m thankful to the Lord for eighteen years of ministry, for the ability to persevere and learn through all sorts of experiences, including incidents related to bias and to God’s call upon my life.

I remember one afternoon, staring out a bathroom window with tears streaming down my cheeks. I was younger then, not as wise as I am now, and I had just experienced the heart breaking reality of prejudice in the church. At that time, I was broken up over a choice that looked me right in the eyes. Would I silence my voice to avoid further pain or would I carry on?

I’m sure that we all agree that skin color, gender or nationality should never limit someone from being who God created him or her to be. Yet, sometimes, as anointed women of God, these very issues can get in our way.

If you have green skin, wear a tutu over bright pink tights, and God gives you a blessing to give to me, I’m not standing in His way–bring the blessing sister, wear your tutu. I won’t miss out on what the Lord has for me and I won’t stand in His way, hindering Him in you.

If these very real issues hinder you from doing what God has called you to do, take it from me…

You can be bitter or you can keep going. My advice to every woman is, Keep your eyes on Jesus and carry on.

A long time ago, I saw the inequality in the Church. Honey, the only one who can change someone’s mind is God, so keep praying and keep going.

Certainly God knows when you’ve been hindered by prejudice, misunderstandings, and wrongly divided text, choose the road of Christ, love no matter what and carry on.

You are called. You are anointed. Be the authentic you that you are. If you’re called to wear tutus over pink tights don’t let the opinions of people reduce you to someone that you’re not.

But do all things with Jesus at the helm of your life, cause not another to stumble into sin, keep love as an established value over all that you do and keep going.

As you put a watch over your lips, refusing to speak ill of those who hinder you, and continue your walk with the Lord, He will do amazing things on your behalf, including opening double doors that no man can shut.

I’m so totally for your success and so is our Heavenly Father. With Christ you can do all things.

Blessings to you,
Pamela

For Your Study

Scriptures Related to Women Ministers: Exodus 15:20; Judges 4-5; Luke 8:1-3; Acts 1:12-14, Acts 2:17-18 (The Holy Spirit came upon women and men, giving them the ability to prophesy, which is declaring God’s word to all people), Acts 16:11-15 (Meetings in Lydia’s home, indicates that she was given a leadership role, as was typical of that day and culture.), Acts 21:8-9 (Prophets have leadership roles. They tell God’s word to women, men and children.); Several examples of women as leaders are in Romans, i.e.Romans 16:1-2 & Romans 16:7; 1 Timothy 3:3 (Paul acknowledges Phoebe as a woman deacon.), and there are many other examples.

Are you Sabotaging Your Future?

Please don’t sabotage the future by neglecting the priorities of today. I feel deeply impressed to encourage you. Do not forfeit what will be yours in due time.

Don’t be like Esau who gave into his natural urges and exchanged a bowl of stew for the inheritance of wealth that was rightfully his. (Genesis 25: 29-34.)

No matter where you live or what you do, God has something better than meat, potatoes and gravy for you. Your life is of greater substance than lentils, vegetables and broth. There’s a reason you’re alive. Don’t fall for the savory aromas that fill the air around you, because a “bowl of stew” is a cheap price to pay for losing what never can be replaced.

Esau received from his brother Jacob his appetite’s desire. That delicious, warm, aromatic stew entered his mouth, his stomach, and then where did it go? We all know. In a huge way, he flushed his heritage down the toilet. What he lost would never be regained.

Throwing something of worth away isn’t what any of us desire for our lives. I’m sure if I asked you, what are you throwing down the toilet? You’d look at me quizzically. But reality is, we live in an era when, if we’re not living purposeful lives with God blessed priorities and goals in focus, we could easily flush the precious and valued down the drain.

Cell phones, social media, television, hobbies, careers, shopping, socializing, and serving others all have worth and are important in their intended use. Certainly, food also has some value, for sure, and if you’re dying of hunger, its value increases enormously. But there was no lack of food in Esau’s life, only a lack of self-discipline, wisdom and foresight.

I urge you, please don’t sabotage your future, your loved ones, or your inheritance by living as though a cheap “bowl of stew” is more important than what’s truly precious and valued in your life.

Pamela Koefoed                                                                                                                                                  © Copyright 2017

Part II coming soon~

When the Mud begins to Fly

If you want to increase activity on your FB page, just write something in favor of either Ms. Clinton or Mr. Trump. It’s also a great way to put a love test out there for the body of Christ. When the mud begins to fly…well, it’s not very Christian.
It’s one thing to voice one’s opinion, but insults and verbal attacks are an entirely different scenario.
“Love the Lord with all your heart, soul and strength and love your neighbor as yourself”-Matthew 22:37, Mark 12:30-31, Luke 10:27.
“And we have this commandment from Him: Whoever loves God must love his brother as well”- 1 John 4:21.
Pamela Koefoed

Jesus Heals Woman with Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, Atrophied Foot and Wrist

A testimony from our ministry in the rural foothills of Northern California
Today I received healing for carpal tunnel and pain in my right ankle. Praise God!! (Nena had a serious injury to her ankle that never healed properly. As a result, she walked with a crutch and her foot/toes had actually atrophied. On the 12th, Nena was worshiping the Lord along with the rest of us and suddenly ran up onto the stage, jumping up and down without her crutch. Jesus brought healing to her before anyone could even pray for her. And, her wrist was and still is fine. She states that on Sunday, November 14th, she was prayed for and received healing in her back and neck. That was four months ago and she’s still dancing! Hallelujah! Pastor Robin Davis, House of Prayer)
Nena
Garden Valley, CA.

I’m so happy for Nena. Miracles like this are gifts from our loving, Heavenly Father

The Culture of Honor

loveletterI’m fascinated by the way some nations honor those who are worthy of honor. For instance, when my friends ministered in Pakistan, the sponsoring pastors placed several white flowery wreaths around their necks. Then as they entered the sanctuary, the congregation sprinkled rose pedals on the floor before their feet.

And I know of a minister who serves a congregation on the African continent whose wife went out of country for several weeks to receive cancer treatments. Upon her return, a large company of people greeted her at the airport and ushered she and her husband to a party held to praise the Lord for bringing her safely home–that party was a grand celebration of her return with food, music and joyous dancing.

I’m not suggesting that we Americans make a rose pedal walkway for visiting ministers or drape leas around the necks of guest preachers, nor am I intimating that elaborate parties be held for ministers of the Gospel upon their return to us from long absences.

But here’s what i think…

We can learn much from other cultures about honor, respect and appreciation.

Yes, it may seem like the examples I used here are over the top, but can you imagine how my friends and that pastor’s wife felt? The point of honoring is to demonstrate esteem in a way that greatly blesses the recipient. The Pakistani pastors and the African congregation did a great job of doing just that.

Quite some time ago, it came to my attention that in the United States we show honor to certain members of society whom we deem especially worthy, but in many other scenarios we are poorly lacking.

As Gods children, we should be golden in this whole area of esteeming one another. It’s one of the values of God’s Kingdom. But I’m not so sure that we do this very well.

Furthermore, the Bible instructs, “Let the elders who rule well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in preaching and teaching” (1 Timothy 5:17).

What does “double honor” look like in the American Church culture? And how can we in the Body of Christ improve the way that we esteem one another?

Honoring one another and giving “double honor” to preachers and teachers is important to the Lord. This is a big deal in the Kingdom. Therefore, for several months I’ve sought for greater understanding and an application of these truths.

Last week, an answer to my questions concerning this came through a total contradiction to 1 Timothy 5:17. What happened to me, an experience which was the complete opposite of honor, shocked me clear out of the water. It came from left field and caught me off guard. It rattled my senses and brought me to tears.

But a blessing came from that heartbreak; I gained greater understanding and a stronger determination to honor and esteem those worthy of respect.

Tonight, as I share this with you, I hope that you will glean from my words. The vocabulary I used here isn’t especially creative and this note to you isn’t polished, but it’s from my heart.

Let’s esteem one another and give “double honor” to those who serve among us. Let’s get really good at this and make it something for which we’re known. As we do so, we will impact our culture in a transformative and wonderful way.

Blessings to you,

Pamela Koefoed