Don’t Fall into the Disappointment Trap

I had just learned the news and I let out a little moan. My friends lost their entire investment, money that was supposed to be for their retirement years. Their hearts were flooded with a whirlwind of emotions, deep disappointment was chief among them.

Have you ever known someone who held onto bitterness, or anger for years? Most likely their negative attitude and mood is linked to something in their lives that didn’t go as they had hoped it would. Their disappointment might’ve begun with a broken relationship, a broken promise, a failed opportunity, or prayers that weren’t answered as expected.

People who hold onto disappointment are allowing the past to decide their present and shape their future. Most, of course, have no idea that this is what’s going on. I have good news. God has provided a way to move forward and a way to stay out of the disappointment trap.

We’ve all experienced the let down that happens when plans don’t turn out as hoped.
Many have been deeply disappointed through broken relationships and broken dreams.

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Video: How to Stay Out of the Disappointment Trap

In this video, I talk about how to not let disappointing circumstances shape your future and I share with you a principle for personal breakthrough that I’ve applied to my own life, a principle that my friends (the ones who lost their investment) have walked in for years. 

Several years have passed since my friends lost their retirement money and, in that time, their lives have been dressed in wonderful opportunities that’ve brought them satisfaction and joy.

How did they go from total loss to enjoying God’s blessings?

They stayed out of the disappointment trap and they responded in a way that helped them move forward into the purpose for their lives.

There’s a way to respond when your plans don’t go as planned that will empower you to see what God has brought into your life, so that you don’t miss the blessings that He has for you. See Jeremiah 29:11.

God has only the best in His heart for you. It will take some effort on your part to live in the fullness of all that He has. It’s my prayer and confident belief that this video message will be a blessing to you and to those you love.

You are dearly loved,

Pamela Koefoed

You can Live Fearless…Two Tools that Really Work

You don’t have to live with fear. On this video, Living Fearless, I share two practical tools that really work to free yourself of fear’s subtle and more obvious influences. I’ve put these tools to use and have had such great results that I’m sharing them with whoever is listening…hopefully, that’s you.

I had fun sharing on Facebook’s livestream. I’m still learning to use my equipment, so forgive the 30 second blooper at the beginning. I’ve received good feedback from folks who have put the tips that I share on this video to use.

They had the same good results that I had. The stress or anxiety that they felt went down from something like a 5 to a zero within minutes. These tips that I share really work and that’s why I’m so excited to share this video with you, blooper and all. I hope you enjoy it.

 

How to Change Your Life

If I could tell you how to change your life and you actually put into practice my instructions and they actually worked, you would probably think that I’m a genius. But I can’t take any credit for the life changing instructions in this article because they’re found in the New Testament.

God is the supreme genius and I’m merely the sharer of His principles. It’s my hope that you will put them to good use and it’s my prayer that your life will be wonderfully transformed.

Transformation begins with our minds and our hearts. To live the amazing life that our Heavenly Father has for us, habits of thinking and patterns of belief must be brought under the headlamp of God’s Word.

To fulfill our God designed purpose, fear based thinking must be replaced with a way of thinking that encourages our own hearts and motivates our own minds. Too often, the inward self critic and the mind’s anti-risk mode uses fear to dissuade us away from the steps that lead us into what we’re here on this planet for.

To be more like Christ, our own ideas about who we are and what we’re capable of achieving must line up with who God says that we are and with what He says about the victory that He provided for us through His Son.

If it’s difficult for you to approach life optimistically or if you experience frequent fear or condemning thoughts, you’re not the only one. These things seems to be typical human responses to living in a less than perfect world.

In Romans 12:2, we’re told to be transformed by renewing our minds. This passage  refers to building into your mind the truths and principles found in New Testament teaching; doing so transforms you.

Do you know that when you change the way you think, you actually begin changing your life? This is because we walk out what we believe. We think and then we do. We think, we speak what’s in our hearts, and sometimes we find that what we speak comes into being.

For several reasons, it’s important for us to believe, think and speak in line with what God has revealed in New Testament teaching about who He is, what Jesus has accomplished, who we are, what He’s given us, what He provides, and what awaits us in the future. This isn’t always easy to do, but it’s much more achievable for the person who has renewed his or her mind with God’s Word.

Instructions for changing your life, one thought at a time.

I’ve included in this article a tool that I believe is a great tool for personal transformation, especially for anyone who needs a little help with any one or more of the following issues: overcoming fear, anxiety, worry, dread, or feeling unworthy of God’s love, or feeling ashamed, insignificant, or rejected.

The daily pledge list and decrees included in this article can have truly amazing results. To get the full benefits requires a little effort, but it isn’t difficult.

There are eight daily pledges and ten decrees. You might want to copy the pledge and decree list and post it in a place where you’re likely to see it during the day.

For best results, read the eight daily pledges and speak aloud the 10 decrees one or more times daily for 30 days. Doing so will produce amazing results. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself happier and more optimistic, accomplishing better results, walking more in tune with your purpose and in closer fellowship with the Lord.

Daily Pledge

Focusing on negative circumstances doesn’t help. Worrying about the past or the future is harmful for your God-created purpose and for your health. Renew your mind to have a more hopeful and optimistic perspective on life.

If there’s something weighing on your heart today, tell the Lord what it is and ask for His help in the situation. Thank Him for the answer before you receive it.

Read the following eight bulleted items one or more times a day.

  • Today I won’t allow worry to fill my thoughts. I cast all my care on the Lord, for He cares for me, 1 Peter 5:7.
  • Today I will expect good things to happen. After all, God is causing all things to work together for my good, because I love Him, Romans 8:28-29.
  • Today I won’t expect failure. I will look to the Lord for success by committing my plans to Him, Philippians 4:13.
  • Today I won’t allow a self critical thought to take up space in my mind. After all, I’m  told in 1 John 3:1 to think about how great God’s love is for me.
  • Today I won’t worry about getting sick. I take for myself the New Covenant blessing of redemption from sin and disease through the blood of Jesus Christ.
  • Today I won’t scrutinize how my voice sounds. I won’t negatively assess my physical features. I won’t worry what others think about me. I’m the dearly beloved of the Father and He created me in His likeness and image. I’m a blessing to others, 1 John 4:7; Genesis 1:27-28
  • Today I expect favor on my life. I am chosen. I’m not rejected, Isaiah 41:9
  • Today I will show love and receive love, 1 John 4:7-10

Speak aloud the following ten statements one or more times a day for 30 days. Decree a thing and it shall be established, Job 22:28.

  • I can accomplish things that seem hard for me through Christ Jesus, Romans 8:17
  • I am strong in the Lord and in the power of His might, Ephesians 3:16
  • I am loved by God. He is my Father. I am a child of God. John 3:16, 1 John 3:1
  • I am favored by God, Galatians 4:7
  • I am the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus, 2 Corinthians 5:21
  • I am victorious through Christ Jesus, 2 Corinthians 2:14
  • I do not worry. I am not anxious. God’s meeting my every need and His peace is in my heart and mind, Matthew 6:25-31; Philippians 4:6
  • I walk in love because I am loved, Ephesians 5:1-2; 1 John 4:7-10
  • I am a blessing to others, Galatians 5:13
  • I am safe because God protects me, Psalm 121:7; 2 Timothy 4:18

 

 

 

 

 

How to be Happier

How to be truly and  chronically happy…

  • Love God. Love your family and “your neighbor.”
  • Be kind to yourself. You will make mistakes. We all do. Give yourself some grace, because this is what God does.
  • Do your part to stay true to God and to who He created you to be.
  • Stop and smell the roses. Get out in the fresh air. Breath deeply. Go for a walk or a ride.
  • Limit your sugar and unhealthy fats.
  • Eat your veggies. Drink water. And move, move, move your body enough to rev up your circulation..how often? Several times throughout the day.
  • Laugh. Even if nothing’s funny. Regardless of the humor element, your brain will think you’re laughing and will release health producing chemicals into your bloodstream.
  • Read the New Testament slow enough to think about it. Pray. When you sin, confess your sins to God (and, if needed, to a trusted friend).
  • Don’t hold grudges. Forgive. This includes yourself.
  • Be a friend. Spend time with an old friend or make a new friend.
  • Learn something new. With the internet, there are hundreds of classes available for you to take in your home. Classes can also be found at local churches, the YMCA, colleges, and community centers.
  • Get 6 to 8 hours of sleep a night.
  • Don’t spend all of your time working. Include fun in your life…clean and healthy fun.
  • Give to others. Give in order to help someone or to help a worthwhile organization with their mission of helping others. If you don’t have money to give, re-gift something that you don’t use, or donate your time.
  • Show others the same grace and kindness that you want God to give to you. And Show this same grace and kindness to yourself.

God has given you life…go and live it!

Pamela Koefoed