When she shut everyone out of her life, I assumed she didn't mean me. What a shock to learn that everyone even meant me. I lived for a while in unbelief but, as the days passed, reality hit my heart and I wept as though my friend had died. This is why I say that disappointment can change a celebration into a wake.
Those early experiences wrote a script in my mind which told me that I was not safe. I was in my thirties when I realized that most people don't plan escape routes, but that's what I did many times over the years.