Don’t Let Fear Diminish the Amazing Life that God has for You to Live

VictoryAlready this year, fear has tried to hinder me from living the amazing life that God has for me. In January, I learned how to use new technology to produce live videos, and I learned how to illustrate a children’s book. Acquiring the new skills that I needed brought a measure of misery–a weighty feeling. I was overwhelmed. If I had listened to my feelings, then fear would’ve diminished the amazing life that God has for me to live.

Intimidation often accompanies new and unknown territory. The weighty misery that I felt when I thought about what I needed to learn is common to mankind. It’s a fear that can hinder you (and me), unless we rule over it.

Many great opportunities are lost to those who submit to unreasonable fear. There are very effective principles that I use to overcome what would otherwise keep me from living the life that God has for me. I share these principles with you in today’s teaching video, Don’t Let Fear Hinder Your Purpose.

In this video class, I’ll tell you how I overcame fear to walk through the doors that the Lord has opened. I’ll share with you principles that have helped me trust the Lord more consistently. By the way, these are the principles that I used to overcome that awful feeling that often accompanies learning a new skill.

God has a truly amazing life for each of you to live. Sometimes circumstances keep us from things that are so good, and sometimes fear hinders us from living life more fully.   You might be surprised to discover how practical the Lord’s antidote is for the fears that hinder.

I invite you to get some paper, if you can, a pencil, and jot down some notes as you listen to today’s teaching.

God bless you,

Pamela Koefoed

How to Change Your Life

If I could tell you how to change your life and you actually put into practice my instructions and they actually worked, you would probably think that I’m a genius. But I can’t take any credit for the life changing instructions in this article because they’re found in the New Testament.

God is the supreme genius and I’m merely the sharer of His principles. It’s my hope that you will put them to good use and it’s my prayer that your life will be wonderfully transformed.

Transformation begins with our minds and our hearts. To live the amazing life that our Heavenly Father has for us, habits of thinking and patterns of belief must be brought under the headlamp of God’s Word.

To fulfill our God designed purpose, fear based thinking must be replaced with a way of thinking that encourages our own hearts and motivates our own minds. Too often, the inward self critic and the mind’s anti-risk mode uses fear to dissuade us away from the steps that lead us into what we’re here on this planet for.

To be more like Christ, our own ideas about who we are and what we’re capable of achieving must line up with who God says that we are and with what He says about the victory that He provided for us through His Son.

If it’s difficult for you to approach life optimistically or if you experience frequent fear or condemning thoughts, you’re not the only one. These things seems to be typical human responses to living in a less than perfect world.

In Romans 12:2, we’re told to be transformed by renewing our minds. This passage  refers to building into your mind the truths and principles found in New Testament teaching; doing so transforms you.

Do you know that when you change the way you think, you actually begin changing your life? This is because we walk out what we believe. We think and then we do. We think, we speak what’s in our hearts, and sometimes we find that what we speak comes into being.

For several reasons, it’s important for us to believe, think and speak in line with what God has revealed in New Testament teaching about who He is, what Jesus has accomplished, who we are, what He’s given us, what He provides, and what awaits us in the future. This isn’t always easy to do, but it’s much more achievable for the person who has renewed his or her mind with God’s Word.

Instructions for changing your life, one thought at a time.

I’ve included in this article a tool that I believe is a great tool for personal transformation, especially for anyone who needs a little help with any one or more of the following issues: overcoming fear, anxiety, worry, dread, or feeling unworthy of God’s love, or feeling ashamed, insignificant, or rejected.

The daily pledge list and decrees included in this article can have truly amazing results. To get the full benefits requires a little effort, but it isn’t difficult.

There are eight daily pledges and ten decrees. You might want to copy the pledge and decree list and post it in a place where you’re likely to see it during the day.

For best results, read the eight daily pledges and speak aloud the 10 decrees one or more times daily for 30 days. Doing so will produce amazing results. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself happier and more optimistic, accomplishing better results, walking more in tune with your purpose and in closer fellowship with the Lord.

Daily Pledge

Focusing on negative circumstances doesn’t help. Worrying about the past or the future is harmful for your God-created purpose and for your health. Renew your mind to have a more hopeful and optimistic perspective on life.

If there’s something weighing on your heart today, tell the Lord what it is and ask for His help in the situation. Thank Him for the answer before you receive it.

Read the following eight bulleted items one or more times a day.

  • Today I won’t allow worry to fill my thoughts. I cast all my care on the Lord, for He cares for me, 1 Peter 5:7.
  • Today I will expect good things to happen. After all, God is causing all things to work together for my good, because I love Him, Romans 8:28-29.
  • Today I won’t expect failure. I will look to the Lord for success by committing my plans to Him, Philippians 4:13.
  • Today I won’t allow a self critical thought to take up space in my mind. After all, I’m  told in 1 John 3:1 to think about how great God’s love is for me.
  • Today I won’t worry about getting sick. I take for myself the New Covenant blessing of redemption from sin and disease through the blood of Jesus Christ.
  • Today I won’t scrutinize how my voice sounds. I won’t negatively assess my physical features. I won’t worry what others think about me. I’m the dearly beloved of the Father and He created me in His likeness and image. I’m a blessing to others, 1 John 4:7; Genesis 1:27-28
  • Today I expect favor on my life. I am chosen. I’m not rejected, Isaiah 41:9
  • Today I will show love and receive love, 1 John 4:7-10

Speak aloud the following ten statements one or more times a day for 30 days. Decree a thing and it shall be established, Job 22:28.

  • I can accomplish things that seem hard for me through Christ Jesus, Romans 8:17
  • I am strong in the Lord and in the power of His might, Ephesians 3:16
  • I am loved by God. He is my Father. I am a child of God. John 3:16, 1 John 3:1
  • I am favored by God, Galatians 4:7
  • I am the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus, 2 Corinthians 5:21
  • I am victorious through Christ Jesus, 2 Corinthians 2:14
  • I do not worry. I am not anxious. God’s meeting my every need and His peace is in my heart and mind, Matthew 6:25-31; Philippians 4:6
  • I walk in love because I am loved, Ephesians 5:1-2; 1 John 4:7-10
  • I am a blessing to others, Galatians 5:13
  • I am safe because God protects me, Psalm 121:7; 2 Timothy 4:18

 

 

 

 

 

How to be Happier

How to be truly and  chronically happy…

  • Love God. Love your family and “your neighbor.”
  • Be kind to yourself. You will make mistakes. We all do. Give yourself some grace, because this is what God does.
  • Do your part to stay true to God and to who He created you to be.
  • Stop and smell the roses. Get out in the fresh air. Breath deeply. Go for a walk or a ride.
  • Limit your sugar and unhealthy fats.
  • Eat your veggies. Drink water. And move, move, move your body enough to rev up your circulation..how often? Several times throughout the day.
  • Laugh. Even if nothing’s funny. Regardless of the humor element, your brain will think you’re laughing and will release health producing chemicals into your bloodstream.
  • Read the New Testament slow enough to think about it. Pray. When you sin, confess your sins to God (and, if needed, to a trusted friend).
  • Don’t hold grudges. Forgive. This includes yourself.
  • Be a friend. Spend time with an old friend or make a new friend.
  • Learn something new. With the internet, there are hundreds of classes available for you to take in your home. Classes can also be found at local churches, the YMCA, colleges, and community centers.
  • Get 6 to 8 hours of sleep a night.
  • Don’t spend all of your time working. Include fun in your life…clean and healthy fun.
  • Give to others. Give in order to help someone or to help a worthwhile organization with their mission of helping others. If you don’t have money to give, re-gift something that you don’t use, or donate your time.
  • Show others the same grace and kindness that you want God to give to you. And Show this same grace and kindness to yourself.

God has given you life…go and live it!

Pamela Koefoed

Her Eyes Bugged Out, She Smelled like Vicks, She Hated Left Handed Kids

Mrs. Browley, my kindergarten teacher reprimanded me lots of times every day. My speech impediment had me mispronouncing many words and she repeatedly corrected me. I faced other challenges, too. I couldn’t tie my shoes, tell time, write numbers or letters—not even those in my name.

Mother hadn’t prepared me for kindergarten. She didn’t see the value for children’s books and had never read to Robin or me. In fact, there weren’t any books for kids in our house. Mother didn’t show us how to do anything academic. She didn’t teach us the spelling of our names, or how to hold a pencil, or how to recite the alphabet, or how to count.

Sometime during the first week at Thomas Edison, just after the morning bell rang, I picked up the fat, black pencil and obeyed Mrs. Browley’s name writing instructions.

“That’s not the correct hand,” she said from across the room.

She could’ve been speaking to any one of the twenty-eight kids in my class. I knew how many kids there were because Mother had said that in my class of twenty-eight, another boy and I were the only students who wrote with our left hands. Mother thought left handedness was a sign of intelligence. She said Einstein was a genius and he was left handed, but perhaps Mrs. Browley didn’t see it that way.

“Pam!” Mrs. Browley snapped. She hurried across the room with a ruler pointed in my direction, ignoring the curious and startled stares of her class of students, and she leaned over me, smelling of Vicks VaporRub, with black-framed glasses balancing on her nose, and her eyes looking ten times larger than they really were. “Hold your pencil with your right hand.”

I dropped my pencil like it had stung me and grabbed it with my other hand.

“That’s more like it. Now, keep it there,” she said sternly.

All throughout winter, bug-eyed Mrs. Browley tried reforming me into a right handed person without success. Shortly before recess one afternoon, she confronted me with a ruler held high in the air, and she slapped the knuckles of the hand in which I grasped the fat pencil. “You will not”—Her jaw trembled and her pale complexion turned a deep red—“write with your left hand!”

No one had ever struck me, not even Mother, and I dropped the pencil, swallowed hard to stop the tears forming in my eyes, and stared down at the worksheet on my desk. I knew I was bad. “I don’t know what hand to use. Which one’s right?”

“What did you say?”

My lips trembled and my voice had little strength. “Which one’s right?”

“Right, not white. Pam, pick up your pencil with your right hand.”

By natural inclination, I picked it up with my left.

“Not that one!”

I switched hands and clutched the fat pencil clumsily.

“Left handedness is a sign of retardation. Just look at your letters.” She continued her scolding in a voice loud enough for everyone in the room to hear. “Pam, your letters are backwards.” Her ruler pointed to the place at the top of the page. “Just look at this P in your name.”

A lump formed in my throat and I kept my eyes on the worksheet in front of me.

Her voice softened. “Are you watching?”

I nodded.

“You write P like this.” Holding my right hand clutched around the fat pencil, she directed my hand and wrote P in the correct direction. “As it stands, your name is backwards. You read from left to right and you write from left to right,” she said, still guiding my hand. “Your name’s not Map,” she said, shaking her head in disgust. “Do you want to be called Map? Map is not a name. It’s a thing.”

I wanted to tell her she was wrong, tell her what Mother had said about Einstein, but that meant I’d have to speak again and she wouldn’t understand, and who wanted to speak when they had to repeat themselves? So I just shook my head.

Excerpt from Pamela Koefoed’s new memoir, JoyRide: Life, Death and Forgiveness.

More about the book: http://joyridebook.com

© Copyright 2014 Pamela Koefoed

A Reason to Live

What do dangerous chlorine gas, an exploding house, and a knife attack mean to you? Hopefully nothing. But for me, these were each experiences that I had growing up with my alcohol-addicted mother. Living with her was like trying to survive in a river of crocodiles. My life was often in danger and it’s a wonder that I wasn’t eaten alive.

I survived, obviously, but there’s something else–I overcame. I’m here to give hope and help to the hurting through my creative writing style which is much like story telling. Because I suffered and loved much, I am able to provide a fresh perspective on some of the most perplexing social issues facing our world.

Interaction with readers encourages me to keep writing these vignettes. I would love to hear from you. If you would like to respond in writing to something you’ve read, here are some things to consider: How did the article impact you? Have you had a similar experience? Do you have something positive to contribute to the discussion?

You are dearly loved,

Pamela Koefoed

write@pamelakoefoed.com

http://www.pamelakoefoed.com  http://www.joyridebook.com

Pamela Koefoed.

Five Steps to Help You Achieve Your Dream

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My new book, JoyRide: Life, Death and Forgiveness was a three-and-a-half year journey. Writing is a joyous experience for me, but it isn’t something I do effortlessly. In fact, I compare writing a book to climbing a perilous mountain; both require preparation, tremendous perseverance, and fortitude.

During the “JoyRide” expedition, I was faced with brain draining and emotionally exhausting emergencies, numerous urgent distractions, and the typical self-doubt that belittles an artist’s work. Any of these could’ve sabotaged the project’s completion.

So, how do you reach a goal when it appears that there are hindrances in the way?

Here are five steps that helped me:

1. Pray. Most everyday that I worked on JoyRide, I began with prayer.

2. Evaluate why you are doing what you are doing. Is it worth the effort? In my situation, I wanted to write JoyRide to encourage those who are faced with great difficulties. Helping people became the purpose behind the thousands of hours of writing; this purpose kept me directed.

3. Write down two things: What you want to accomplish and your purpose. Everyone who does anything that’s beyond average has times of self-doubt. I call that critical voice, the nag in the attic. When the old nag starts criticizing your plans or work, tell her to shut-up. Because you wrote down your goals and purpose, you can look at them for reassurance and focus, and since your purpose is worth the effort, you can dismiss the nag.

4. Everyday, do something which will lead you toward your goal. Writers do their best writing during creative flows. On those days when creativity wasn’t happening for me, I read memoirs and studied topics within the field of writing. The point is, don’t stagnate.

5. Take one step at a time. Little steps, everyday, cover a great distance. When distractions occur, refocus as soon as possible and take another step. A book is written this way, first one word, then the next, and the next, etc. Achieving your goal is done in much the same way. You must begin before you can finish.

Wishing you much success and happiness always,

Pamela

http://www.pamelakoefoed.com

http://www.joyridebook.com