How Would you Respond in this Situation?

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Shocking me is not an easy accomplishment. I spent much of my childhood in a bar. But today a woman who I don’t know set her mouth to flying in response to someone practically drag racing down her road.

She used the phrase Jesus Christ on a cross as a substitute for cussing. That was the first shock of the day. The second was when our big horse decided to take a section of fence out. Thankfully, my horse is okay.

Society has its own checks and balances, making corrections where needed, and even undoing some of the corrections that weren’t needed. But something has upset the balance. Something has influenced our minds in such a way that people just don’t say what they want to say and need to say to set things right.

Back in the 70’s and 80’s in the barroom with my mother. Men and women sipped their drinks and talked with one another. There was a lot of good natured joking and heaps of smoking.

Everyone knew that dropping expletives in the presence of ladies and children was totally not cool.  Sometimes there were slips, but do you know what would happen next? Someone nearby would gently say, “Keep it down,” or “None of that here.” These kinds of corrections were followed by good natured snickers and chuckles.

A correction, gently stated, was needed today.  That woman’s expletive was way out of bounds. I give her the benefit of the doubt. I don’t think she realized what she said. After all, no one would deliberately speak of someone’s death in the way that she spoke of Jesus’ cross.

If this had happened when I was a child in the barroom, customers would’ve spoken up. I can almost hear them now, “None of that in here,” but this time there would be no snickers and no chuckles.

I’ve spent some time thinking about this incident. I’ve shared some of my thoughts with you. I’d like to know your approach to this. Would you have said something to her? If so, what would it have been?

Wishing you a lovely day,




I Have Something to Tell You that I Can’t Remain Silent About

May I have three minutes out of your busy life to share with you important information that will impact your heart as it did my own. How often do we read something that gets beneath our skin? This is one of those.

By this point, all Americans are over their heads with hearing political blah blah blah. I’m tired of it. You’re tired of it. So much is hype and drama. It’s gotten to the point where we don’t know heads from tails, what’s truth, what’s not.

But if we turn a deaf ear to the political propaganda mayhem, we will inadvertently ignore an issue which may have major implications upon America as a society, upon our children and future generations.

Two days ago, I awoke at about 4 a.m. with my heart in my throat and tears filling my eyes because of something Mr. Trump said, followed by Ms. Clinton’s response during the final debate.

Ms. Clinton is in support of aborting FULLY DEVELOPED babies in certain instances.

“Of course it’s a horrible procedure. No one would argue with that. But if your life is at stake, if your health is at stake, if the potential for having any more children is at stake, this must be a woman’s choice”–Hillary Clinton. (This Hillary quote is not from the debate. Copied from*

Ms. Clinton disclosed her personal beliefs related to abortion at the final debate and during other interviews. This is not a myth, an exaggeration, or a conspiracy to defeat the democratic candidate.

I challenge you to ask the question, How does a medical professional abort a full term baby? The mother (if not already in labor) is medically put into labor. When the baby’s head is in the birth canal this is when the baby’s life is ended. I will spare you the horrifying details.

Think about this….your vote agrees with your nominee’s main positions, the ones that have become public. The Democratic candidate’s position on this is clear. She has indicated her complete support and will likely appoint Supreme Court Justices who agree with her. The Republican candidate’s position is clear and he has promised to appoint Supreme Court Justices who are opposed to such practices.

Please hear my heart. I’m trying to help. Just like you, I’m tired of all the political chatter, slander, lies, commercials. Neither candidate is perfect. Both have major flaws, and serious past mistakes. Who you or I vote for is a personal choice. Your vote has more power than you may realize.

Who we nominate to lead the United States of America has the power to kill and to give life, to build and to destroy.

I can’t turn away from this. I can’t ignore it. It makes me cry big tears. Who knows…maybe by ignoring my fear of offending someone, I’ll save a baby’s life. Maybe you’ll save a baby’s life.

I’m a mother and a grandmother. This note is one way that I can help in this very sensitive and heated election year. The stakes are high, especially for unborn children. If you want, share it. If you’re offended, it’s not meant to divide, but to inform.

This cruelty is unbelievable. I never thought I’d see a day like this in the United States.

Pamela Koefoed

*I edited a statement that could appear to be exaggeration and I added the quote from Ms. Clinton after receiving a very nice and corrective comment from one of my readers. I don’t entirely agree with him, but I appreciate what he wrote. See his note below and my reply. Additionally, I found the following article helpful, as it quotes exactly what Mr. Trump and Ms. Clinton said regarding Late Term Abortion,